11 November, Antonio Cardinal Bacci: Meditations For Each Day

Sensitiveness

1. A single severe glance from our employer or superior is enough to make us anxious. If it is accompanied by a word of rebuke we are thoroughly upset. Why should this be so? It is because we are lacking in the fundamental virtue of humility. We want to keep up appearances and to be held in high regard. If we are frustrated in this ambition, we suffer inwardly.

All this is quite natural, but on this natural foundation we must build the virtue of humility and the desire to serve God alone. If we possess this virtue, we shall continue to be sensitive to insults and humiliations but our suffering will be sanctified and will be meritorious in the sight of God.

We are all pleased when we are praised by others and are hurt when we are criticised, because our natural inclinations are never destroyed. Our sensitivity, however, can be moderated and brought under the control of right reason, whose guide should be the rule of virtue. It is worth reflecting on what the “Imitation of Christ” has to say in this regard.

“Whenever a man desireth anything inordinately, straight-away he is disquieted within himself. The proud and the covetous are never at rest; the poor and humble in spirit pass their life in abundance of peace. The man who is not yet perfectly dead to self is soon tempted and overcome in little and paltry things. He that is weak in spirit, and in a certain manner as yet carnal, and inclined to things of sense, cannot without difficulty sever himself wholly from earthly desires. And therefore he is often sad when he does withdraw himself; and besides, he is easily moved to anger if anyone thwarts him. And, if he has pursued his inclination, forthwith he is burdened with remorse of conscience for having gone after his passion, which helped him not at all to the peace he looked for. It is by resisting the passions, therefore, and not by serving them, that true peace of heart is to be found. Peace, therefore, is not in the heart of the carnal man, nor in the man who is devoted to outward things, but in the fervent and spiritual man.” (Bk. 1, c.6)

“Continual peace dwelleth with the humble, but in the heart of the proud is frequent envy and indignation.” (Ibid., c. 7, v.3)

2. Our wounded feelings sometimes give rise to an external explosion in the form of bitter and offensive remarks. These always create disharmony and have various unfortunate after-effects.

It is fatal to lose control over ourselves. A man who has surrendered to anger and resentment does not weigh his words and is not responsible for his actions. When the fit has passed, he is left with a sense of humiliation because of his lack of moderation and must suffer the consequences both before God and before his fellow-men in his domestic and social environment. “When the angry man has calmed down,” Seneca truly observed, “he is angry with himself.” “Let anger be foreign to us,'' said Cicero, “for an angry man is incapable of acting correctly or prudently. Anything which is done in a state of agitation cannot be done properly nor can it meet with the approval of the bystanders.” (De Off., I, 38)

Let us meditate also on these apt quotations from Sacred Scripture. “A mild answer calms wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Prov. 15:1) “An ill-tempered man stirs up strife, but a patient man allays discord.” (Prov. 15:18)

3. Let us form the following resolutions: (1) Never to speak or never to make a decision in a moment of anger. (2) To wait until we have regained full self-control and serenity before we make any statement or perform any action. (3) Never to be disturbed by the unpleasant remarks or behaviour of others in our regard. Considering that the Saints actually looked for humiliations and penances, the least we should do is accept those God sends us and offer them to Him.